Imagining the Ideal Life

Black and white photo of a wooden bridge in the woods

Yesterday I had the pleasure of conducting mock interviews of law students in preparation for the upcoming interview season.  They were eager and well-prepared, looking out at the endless possibilities that lay ahead if them.  I asked them where they saw themselves five years after graduation, and I answered their questions about my job, including what had led me to it, what I loved about it, and what, if anything, I might change.

When I was in their position ten years ago, I hated the “where do you see yourself in x years?” question.  I had no real vision for my future.  I guess I figured if I followed all the recommended steps — work hard, get good grades, network, get a good job at a big firm — everything would fall into place and I’d end up with the life I was supposed to have, whatever that was.  I really didn’t know enough about the world or myself to know what I wanted my life to look like.  I could recite answers to interview questions, but the visions I described were really other peoples’ ideas of what a good life and career looked like.

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The Catch-22 of Makeup

A photo of Alexis not wearing any makeup
A rare photo of the author without makeup

Last Sunday, I did something highly unusual for me.  I treated myself to some spa time, took a boat out on the lake with my family, swam a little, and went out to dinner.  The unusual part was that I did all of this while wearing no makeup.  Though I haven’t really kept track, it’s possible that last Sunday was my first makeup-free day in nearly 20 years.  (Ok, there may have been one or two days after I gave birth, but they were days on which I didn’t leave my house.)

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