Being Adopted, Part IV: Family History Revealed

Photo of the author's paternal great-grandparents standing in front of a car
My paternal great-grandparents, Ollie and John

You can read the earlier posts in this series here:

In my last post in this series, I wrote about meeting my immediate biological family, my siblings and mother. But family roots, of course, go far deeper than one or two generations. I wanted to have a more complete picture of the ancestors whose genes I’d inherited.

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Happy 2nd Birthday, Alexigraph!

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Today is my two-year blogiversary. As someone with a lot of ideas who often doesn’t see them through, I’m proud to have stuck with this project for two whole years. Thank you for joining me on this journey and taking the time to read what I write!

Here are some of my favorite posts from the past year, in no particular order:

What to Do with Your Tax Refund Instead of Buying Stuff

Keeping the Weeds of Life from Taking Over

I Challenged Myself to the 30-Day Minimalism Game. Here’s How It Went.

What I Learned from Reading My Elementary School Report Cards as an Adult

On Matrescence, the Transition Into Motherhood

Why I Don’t Hate My Student Loans

Understanding the Declining U.S. Fertility Rate

To My Parents on Their 50th Anniversary

Social Anxiety and Learning to be Ourselves, Comfortably

I’m Happy To Be a Working Mother. Really.

Do you have a favorite post from the past year?

In Memoriam

My sweet boy Brutus died this morning. He was such a loving, affectionate cat. I adopted him and his sister at the age of 8 in 2011. Their former owner was moving and couldn’t take the cats with her. I agreed to foster Brutus and Chloe, but we formed a bond in those first few months and I knew before long that we wouldn’t be parting. When I first brought him home, Brutus hid in a corner for a good week or two. Then all of a sudden, one evening he came downstairs, hopped on my lap, and started purring like crazy. He was a snuggle bug from that moment on. Brutus was with me for seven and a half years. We lived in five houses together, in three states. He was great company during some difficult times in my life. Rest In Peace, Brutus. We’ll miss you.

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New Privacy Policy

If you’re like me, your inbox has been filled with notices of privacy policies over the past few days and weeks.  Well, here’s another one to add to your collection.  In an effort to comply with the European Union’s new privacy law, known as the G.D.P.R., I’ve added a privacy policy to the site.  If you feel so inclined, you can read it here.

I’m going to take a break from writing this weekend to enjoy some quality time with friends and family.  Have a great weekend!

Ask Alexis, Ads, Art and More

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Hello!  I’m foregoing my usual weekend post to address a few administrative matters:

  1. Ask Alexis.  I’d love to start an advice column of sorts on this site: a weekly or monthly post in which I answer reader questions.  To do that, though, I need to hear from you!  Please send me your questions through the comment form in the menu bar.  Sign them with whatever name or alias you’d like me to use when I respond in a post — it does not have to be your real name if you’d like to remain anonymous.  Questions can relate to interpersonal struggles, creative pursuits, dating, time management, balance, or other life issues.  Remember, I can’t give you legal advice, though I may be able to answer very general questions about the law or legal procedures.  And of course I’m not a licensed counselor, financial advisor, or anything else.  I’ll just be offering my thoughts based on my own life experience.  With that in mind, ask away!
  2. Ad blockers.  I know many of you have ad blockers installed on your browsers or devices, and I completely understand why.  Ads are annoying, particularly when a site is covered with them.  But I’d like to make a small request:  if you use an ad blocker, would you consider whitelisting this website?  You should only see a maximum of three ads on any of my pages, and you will not be subjected to pop-ups or auto-play video ads, so any interruption should be minimal.  (If you do see an obnoxious ad, let me know and I’ll see what I can do about it.)  I do not make any money from this site, but ad revenue helps to offset the cost of hosting and other administrative costs.  Unlike many blogs, I’ve chosen not to do a bunch of sponsored posts and affiliate-linked product promotions because I don’t want this site to be yet another blog that’s trying to sell you stuff.  In the rare instance that I reference a specific product, it’s because I actually use and love that product.  If you want to keep it that way, please ensure that you can see the ads on the site so that I can get credit for them.  Thanks so much for your help with this!
  3. Artwork.  Most of the paintings and drawings on this site are for sale.  If you’d like to purchase something, contact me and I’ll tell you the dimensions, medium, frame details, price, and shipping options.  Pieces are one-of-a-kind, so if you see something you want, don’t wait!  If you’d like me to donate a piece to a charity art auction, please send me a request and I’ll be happy to consider it.
  4. The Groller Family.  Tim Groller is a police officer and father of three from my hometown who was recently diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer.  He is only 34 years old, and his youngest child was born just a couple of weeks before he received his diagnosis.  I don’t know Tim personally, but I went to middle school and high school with his wife Gabrielle.  You can learn more about Tim and his family here.  If you’d like to help this family with their expenses and relieve their burden as they bravely face this illness, you can donate to their GoFundMe campaign.

Have a lovely weekend!