Imagining the Ideal Life

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Yesterday I had the pleasure of conducting mock interviews of law students in preparation for the upcoming interview season.  They were eager and well-prepared, looking out at the endless possibilities that lay ahead if them.  I asked them where they saw themselves five years after graduation, and I answered their questions about my job, including what had led me to it, what I loved about it, and what, if anything, I might change.

When I was in their position ten years ago, I hated the “where do you see yourself in x years?” question.  I had no real vision for my future.  I guess I figured if I followed all the recommended steps — work hard, get good grades, network, get a good job at a big firm — everything would fall into place and I’d end up with the life I was supposed to have, whatever that was.  I really didn’t know enough about the world or myself to know what I wanted my life to look like.  I could recite answers to interview questions, but the visions I described were really other peoples’ ideas of what a good life and career looked like.

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Social Anxiety and Learning to Be Ourselves, Comfortably

Pastel portrait of a young man

The latest episode of The Psychology Podcast is an interview of psychologist Ellen Hendriksen, author of the new book How to Be Yourself.  Hendriksen is an expert on social anxiety, and I found the conversation fascinating.  The topic goes hand-in-hand with the spotlight effect, which I briefly touched upon in this post and have been meaning to discuss in greater depth.

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