I struggle with my self-confidence. Do you have any suggestions for building self-esteem? I love your confidence. Do you remember any lessons your parents taught you that helped your self-esteem/confidence?
Thanks for the question, Caroline! First, let me say this: You have just as much right to be on this planet as everyone else. You are a unique, worthy person who has many gifts to give: gifts of perspective, kindness, creativity, and more. We are all works in process, learning and growing as we move through life. Though it may at times seem like others have everything figured out while you’re still struggling to feel comfortable in your own skin, rest assured that everyone has moments of self-doubt.
Hello! I’m foregoing my usual weekend post to address a few administrative matters:
Ask Alexis. I’d love to start an advice column of sorts on this site: a weekly or monthly post in which I answer reader questions. To do that, though, I need to hear from you! Please send me your questions through the comment form in the menu bar. Sign them with whatever name or alias you’d like me to use when I respond in a post — it does not have to be your real name if you’d like to remain anonymous. Questions can relate to interpersonal struggles, creative pursuits, dating, time management, balance, or other life issues. Remember, I can’t give you legal advice, though I may be able to answer very general questions about the law or legal procedures. And of course I’m not a licensed counselor, financial advisor, or anything else. I’ll just be offering my thoughts based on my own life experience. With that in mind, ask away!
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Artwork. Most of the paintings and drawings on this site are for sale. If you’d like to purchase something, contact me and I’ll tell you the dimensions, medium, frame details, price, and shipping options. Pieces are one-of-a-kind, so if you see something you want, don’t wait! If you’d like me to donate a piece to a charity art auction, please send me a request and I’ll be happy to consider it.
The Groller Family. Tim Groller is a police officer and father of three from my hometown who was recently diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. He is only 34 years old, and his youngest child was born just a couple of weeks before he received his diagnosis. I don’t know Tim personally, but I went to middle school and high school with his wife Gabrielle. You can learn more about Tim and his family here. If you’d like to help this family with their expenses and relieve their burden as they bravely face this illness, you can donate to their GoFundMe campaign.
As my mom will tell you, I’ve never very been good at relaxing. Since about sixth grade, I’ve been involved in all sorts of things. As an adult, you will rarely find me sitting down when I’m at home. I tend to spend my evenings and weekends working out, doing yard work, doing laundry or other chores around the house, attending a meeting or event, visiting friends, or working on some kind of project. I pretty much never sit in front of a television, and my relaxation time is usually scheduled (e.g., yoga class, meditation group, occasional massage or mani/pedi).